What does it mean, to be more relaxed and less reactive? It means that we are able to abide in a calm state of mind, less troubled by the events and circumstances of our lives, and more mindful of our choices. We can call up this peacefulness that gives us an enhanced sense of tenderness and kindness and compassion, a new strength and sense of trust in our own judgment. When we are more relaxed and less reactive, we stop serving the god of what will other people think. All in all, we are able to enjoy a wonderful state of mind; much more pleasant that the stress of negative internal chatter. How? Meditation.
Meditation keeps the negative self-talk at bay.
Meditation is much more than something we set aside 10 or 20 minutes a day to do. Oh, that’s where we begin. But this is only the beginning of meditation. At first, residual effects of the formal meditation time show up. A peaceful easy feeling comes floating by out of the blue. Yes, and song lyrics show up.
The subtle effect of the earlier meditation has kept negative self-talk at bay and a little wisdom whisper from the heart is heard – not in words, but in the waft of the peaceful easy feeling.
Over time, that feeling can become our default, pretty much every waking moment, state of mind. Meditation has become a lifetyle. Every breath is a meditation. Doing the dishes, cleaning up spilled milk, meeting a stoned husband at the door… they are all meditations. Our more relaxed, less reactive way of being is less troubled and more capable of awakened reason. Doesn’t mean that we may not kick the bum out – with compassion of course. Meditation has even been shown in TM studies, to be an IQ boost.
And the health and wellness benefits, WOW! Then there’s another effect, but that’s another story.